从房祖名吸毒事件来看父亲的陪伴

从李天一到张默再到房祖名，娱乐圈里的这些“熊孩子”上演的“坑爹大戏”就没断过。

房祖名吸毒8年的事实确实让人唏嘘不已，我们虽然一直知道娱乐圈的混乱，但房祖名在我们印象里还算是个“五好青年”。作为禁毒大使的成龙，居然有个吸毒8年的儿子，多少听着有点讽刺的意味。虽然说房祖名已过而立之年，吸毒之事应该自己承当。但儿子吸毒八年，身为爸爸的成龙居然毫不知情，我们不得不反思房祖名的家庭教育问题。                                               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房祖名从小跟妈妈在美国长大，小的时候常一个人坐在大厦吃汉堡午餐，邻居觉得他很孤单，他则不同意，说“童年很开心，因为很平凡，不多姿多彩，很享受一个人吃汉堡包，我不会寂寞，我有司机陪我。”17岁时才被承认是成龙的儿子。十年间，一家三口坐在一起吃饭仅一次。1999年以前，成龙每年会回到洛杉矶，与房祖名母子见上两个星期，房祖名形容就像过节一样，但成龙不会带房祖名出门。对此，他曾对成龙说：“我的记忆里没有你的身影，连背影也没有。”

可见成龙基本缺席了房祖名的少年时代。房祖名甚至不能告诉任何人他的爸爸就是成龙。身为“龙太子”的房祖名，自幼就缺少父亲的陪伴，陪伴他的却是家庭司机，他能是个幸福的孩子吗？明星父亲成龙事务繁忙，他给儿子提供了极其丰厚的物质条件，唯独缺少了陪伴。这样的事情不难理解，因为忙不能经常陪伴在儿子身边，缺乏的更是心与心的交流。在儿子进娱乐圈的时候，成龙只说了三条绝对不能违背的规则：不能吸毒，不能赌博，不能进黑社会。可结果呢？

亲子陪伴是最好的教育，父母在孩子身边的言传身教，幸福陪伴，不仅能让孩子体会到家庭的温馨，父母的温暖，对孩子建立起正确的人生观、价值观至关重要。

我们更应该重视陪伴的意义，而非仅仅是物质的给予。家庭教育的最大意义在于陪伴，孩子落地时的那一连串哭声，其实是很无助的，父母的陪伴才能让他健康地成长。

在中国，家庭模式一般为：男主外，女主内。长期照顾孩子生活学习的往往是母亲，可是在儿童教育方面，父亲却拥有着不可替代的地位。虽然大家每天上班很忙，白天没有时间陪孩子，但我们可以在晚上陪孩子一起游戏，一起看书。身为父母，必须树立起陪伴孩子一起成长的责任心，我们可以选择在周末放下手机和电脑，带孩子逛逛公园，吃一顿美餐，爬爬山，游游湖，打打球，下下棋。特别是爸爸们，不管你们有多忙，有多少钱在吸引着你们去赚，请你们务必要抽出一定的时间出来，尽量多地去和孩子交流，陪伴孩子成长的同时你们也会收货意想不到的人间亲情。人是有感情的动物，即使拥有再丰厚的物质，也无法取代情感上的渴求。孩子的成长是不可逆的，错过了就再也弥补不回来了！